Sobering Reality: More Kenyan Men Than Women Battle Mental Disorder

Data contained in a 2022 report by Kenya National Bureau of Statistics on status of men and women in the country indicates that 56.9 per cent of men compared to 43.1 per cent of women have mental disorders.

Mental disorders involve significant disturbances in thinking, emotional regulation, or behaviour.

We speak to three men to have an insight on the circumstances under which they fall into these conditions.

When Jared got married in 2018, he looked forward to a happy union with his wife who was a student at a local university pursuing a degree in counselling psychology.

The university lecturer paid her fees. However, her parents did not approve of their marriage because of cultural differences. They are both from the sametribe but he says her family was more liberal than his, which was still conservative, and observed the Kikuyu traditions to the letter.

My mother had warned me about marrying the girl but I ignored her. How I wish I listened, says the 39-year-old Jared.

He says his wife would demand huge amounts of money to shop for her parents when she knew he had taken loans to cover her fees.

She would scold me, claiming I hated her parents. She would tell her mother and the father would call me to tell me, I'm a useless son-in-law, he says.

I felt hopeless and useless. I was lost. I didnt know who to talk to, so I turned to drinking. Id leave work and head straight to the bar and drink until the bar manager announces its time for closure, shares Jared.

Last year in October, he says, the parents came for their daughter. They already had a son together. They took him too, and told him they would only return after he had found himself.

They lived in Utawala in Nairobi City County where he had bought land and built his family house.

To my surprise, I felt relieved. These days, I occasionally drink one bottle or two at the maximum, he says.

Asked if there is anyone he shares his burden with, Jared said, the only person who understands him is his ex-girlfriend.

Interestingly, my ex-girlfriend is the one who has really helped me feel my worth. I think Id have committed suicide if it wasnt for her. When I feel lost, I speak to her. She is very patient with me, he says.

For now, I cannot tell whether my marriage still exists or not. If that is marriage, then let it be. Im tired of feeling like a butterfly flying to I dont know where.

On December 25, 2019 Phillip ran away from their home in Ndeiya area, Kiambu County.

At the time, he was aged 15 and had completed Class Seven. He was fed up with his mothers unfair treatment. His mother was the head of the household taking care of three children single-handedly. He was the eldest of the three siblings -two brothers and a sister.

My mother always picked on me. He would beat me up so badly for small mistakes, says Phillip, now 18- years-old.

On Christmas Day in 2019, my younger brother and I were fighting over chapati and my mother was so angry with me. She burnt me with the hot spoon she was using while making the chapati, he says as he touches the mark on his right cheek as we stand under a tree on the edges of Nairobi River, downtown Nairobi.

At that point, I realised her home was no longer conducive for my stay. So, I ran away, he says.

He ran to the streets of Nairobi City. For the past three years, he has worked as a casual labourer in construction sites, car cleaner and a porter to provide for himself on the streets.

He has no plan of reuniting with his mother but says he misses his siblings so much.

I wish I had a way of starting my own business such as selling gas cylinders so that I can bring my brother and sister to stay with me. I dont want them to feel like I abandoned them, he says.

At one point, Samson Ouma was lost. At 12 years, his father died and as the eldest of the four siblings, he had to man up. But deep inside, he was yearning for his fathers love and direction.