Dear reader,
I agree that masturbation is still a hushed conversation due to fear of rejection, shame, and guilt. For most people, what started as a fun thing has now morphed into an addiction that is destroying marriages and the lives of teenagers. As a society, we must be aware of why people get addicted to masturbation, its dark side, as it has harsh side effects, and why the affected need to seek help.
The inception of such a habit differs from one person to another. Some people get into masturbation after abuse, or out of a feeling of low self-esteem, depression, or even initiation by others. Sadly, some adults who are involved in this argue that it helps them get the satisfaction they may have missed in their marriage partner. Whatever the reason, masturbation is unnatural and the wrong way to apply ones sexuality. We were made female and male for procreation and pleasure. Some sexologists and other experts believe that it could also start due to a lack of love and support while growing up.
The other dark side of masturbation is that the habit lingers, and one can easily fall into adulterous sexual fantasies, which is a sin.
If your son is addicted to masturbation, find out if he was enabled by watching sexually explicit materials or by friends. Start by controlling what he watches and the friends he hangs out with. Evaluate the company that he keeps and what they do.
For example, friends at school or in the estate easily pass on bad habits to your child. If your son has bad company, encourage him to change friends.
Second, have the masturbation talk, candidly. As a parent, dont feel embarrassed to delve into the subject freely with your children.
If sexuality is not well handled and discussed by parents or the community, it will continue to be seen as a taboo topic.
Low self-esteemWe have to discuss issues of sexuality freely with our children without condemning them. Use a language that is engaging and less judgmental.
In conclusion, here are four things you and your child could do to overcome this vice. First, rebuild your identity. Low self-esteem, depression, and stress can impact you negatively. Rebuild yourself as a man or woman, physically, and emotionally.
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Second, evaluate the kinds of friends and hobbies you involve yourself in. Keep away from the bad company that is holding you back. What we do or involve ourselves in during our spare time can slowly lead us astray or into bad addictions. Dont let your idle mind turn into the devils workshop.
